Monday, June 13, 2011

Party time and support groups

So we had our housewarming/grad party this past Saturday. It was a TON of prep and work leading up to it, but we had a great time as did everyone who attended. We had about 50 people and the weather held out. We served pulled pork, BBQ beans, cornbread, pasta salad, potato salad, BBQ chicken and had a ton of desserts. It really was a great time and we ended up staying up until about 3:30 with a few people. It's been a while since I stayed up that late. 

We also got a bunch of money and some gifts (bonus!) I joked to W that if we get pregnant this cycle we will have enough wine until our child is about 2. The party really was great. 

This evening I attended my first support group for infertility. It was called Circle of Friends and was really good. The only thing is that it is put on by a fertility clinic I don't go to. I didn't say anything about that, but felt a little bad when they were specifically referencing that clinic. The thing is, my clinic doesn't offer anything like that and it didn't seem to be a big deal. On the website it wasn't specific to their clients. 

I am thinking of attending fertility yoga tomorrow as they have a small support group that follows as well. It was nice to see real faces dealing with the same issues. It made me realize we are at the shorter end of trying and treatments. There was one woman who did 7 IVF's (who also looked incredibly familiar), and another couple who just had their third IVF cycle that didn't work. It makes it clear that not everyone succeeds with IVF and this is the thing I am currently most nervous about. There isn't much use stressing about it and there was some great practical advice given tonight. I particularly liked the idea of having something scripted for social events and talking in advance about what will or won't be shared together. W and I are having a hard time with this lately since the excuse was always that he was in school. We are due for some new questions and not having a good response, this is something we need to work on. 

I tried to call the nurse Thursday and she wasn't in. I totally forgot (due to the party) to call on Friday and called today and didn't get a return call. I am a little nervous about Lupron, but we do have at least a 13 day supply already.  I think the biggest thing I need to internalize at this point is stress doesn't help or change anything. I am trying to be calm and positive about everything and highly considering acupuncture now that I found a fertility specific place. I just didn't want to go anywhere and pay all that money for someone who wasn't a specialist. 


  1. Definitely sending you some positive vibes. It's hard to not be stressed out; if it helps, though, you sound like you really have things under control. I think it's a great idea to go to a fertility specific acupuncturist - something I wish I had done from the beginning. I am crossing my fingers and toes for your cycle!!

  2. I'm so glad you had such a wonderful party! Hoping the group continues to go well and that you're finding other ways to relax that are helping!

  3. I hope the group goes well. I found hypnotherapy helped with earlier cycles, and it also helps me when I'm actually undergoing a procedure as I can zone out and relax a little bit more.

  4. SO glad they party was a success!

    I am sure it was perfectly fine for you to be at the other clinic's support group. I sometimes think it would have helped if I had done anything like that. I just always poured it into my blog :)

    Do you have one two week pack of lupron? Those things last for about a month, if that helps you at all!

  5. Yay on a party well done. As for the support, take it where you can. I would go to another clinics group, just to have that function makes them look good, so they're not losing out offering it to everyone.