W and I have always had a great marriage. We've always gotten along great and have supported each other through our darkest times. He was the one holding my hand throughout every failed cycle and cautiously celebrating with me when we did finally get pregnant. We supported each other through graduate school as in our career endeavors.
Lately though it doesn't feel like he's putting in the effort. It's only been for the past few weeks, but it's been rough. He was on call for work one weekend and ended up working the whole time. I think he's felt burned out since that weekend.
As far as being a great dad goes, he's still holding up his end there. He's a great partner when it come to taking care of the girls and continues to help around the house.
It's our marriage that's suffering at the expense of everything else. It feels like he doesn't have any extra energy left for me, for us. Don't get me wrong, I'm exhausted by the time the girls are in bed too, but that's just not a good excuse. Over the past few weeks I've asked W for a few things: to keep me company while I do something, to give me a massage, to get me something, etc. Every time he's told me "no" despite these being things he would have jumped to do for me in the past.
I appreciate him working so that I can stay home. I love that he's an involved and active parent. I just wish his energy could expand to include me and our marriage. Am I asking too much of him? Is he spread too thin already?