After our Easter dinner my step dad pointed it out and and said it was very obvious she favors Lucy. It upsets me that other people are noticing and commenting about it.
The good news is that Clara is a very social and friendly baby. I know she will get plenty of attention. It just bothers me and hurts my feelings to see her so obviously playing favorites. I also don't like leaving the girls with her because I have to worry about whether they are being treated fairly or not.
Maybe part of my feeling upset about it is I had a grandma who played favorites. Big surprise I wasn't the favorite. My sister was mean to me growing up as most jealous big sisters are. When we would stay at my grandma's house Kate would inevitably do something to me. If I told my grandma she would say, "Katie would never do that." I actually had what we caled my crying closet at my grandma's house. When things like that would happen I'd go cry in the closet in the first guest bedroom upstairs. I'm sure I was a bit of a brat and didn't always go to my crying closet for unfairness, but the memory remains. It was upsetting to feel like someone never took your side even when sometimes they should have.
So, I ask you all, do we address it with her? Or, do we say life isn't fair and try to ignore it? I don't know whether this is something that should be addressed or not, but I do know it brings back all kinds of bad memories for me and makes me upset.