It seems everyones idea of the perfect set of twins includes one of each sex. Well, I have 2 girls. That is the perfect set of twins in my eyes.
W and I did not have the same first reaction to the sexes at our anatomy scan but I think each on our own time we spent some time being disappointed we weren't going to have a boy. It didn't hit me for quite a while where he felt it pretty quickly. Don't get me wrong, I have a sister and know how amazing a sister bond is. I'm so happy my girls have each other. I wouldn't change anything about my children. It's just I'm sick of everyone asking the same question and them seeming disappointed when I say it's 2 girls. It's like reliving that moment over and over again. And it's not my proudest moment.
The other thing is I don't love pink. I'm not a girly girl. Big surprise, when grandma offered to knit for the girls I didn't choose pink and purple. I chose my favorite shades of turquoise and she added pink buttons. As much as I don't love girly stuff I do love cute headbands. As cute as they are, we when go out my girls are wearing warm hats, not cute headbands.
I guess the flip side is that if I had one of each I'd have to hear other people tell me how perfect that is and how I'm done having children. That would probably drive me crazy too. Oh well, I guess I either better get used to it or come up with a good response.
I agree. we believe we are having boy girl and it is just bizarre how happy that makes people. when they ask if we are so happy and relieved I want to say "no - we did not care - we would have been happy either way!"
ReplyDeleteOMG. I get this every time I go out. My clothes are all gifts and hand me downs so they are pretty much all pink. No matter how much pink, people always say "girl and a boy?" I guess it doesn't help that one is named Riley which could be a boy's name. It's amazing how much people want it to be one of each because to them it would be the "perfect" family.
ReplyDeleteYour last paragraph is what I was going to say! We actually had hoped for another girl, and when we found out it was a boy, it was SO frustrating to me when everyone said "oh perfect, one of each!" or "now you can stop!" or whatever -- um, I LOVED having sisters, and 2 girls would have been perfect too! Of course I'm happy to have a son now, but it is VERY weird how so many ppl are just programmed to think 1 of each is perfect. :P
ReplyDeleteWe got the same thing with our boys- and it was like people felt sorry for me when they realized they weren't 'one of each'. Before we found out what we were having people would constantly tell us they hoped it'd be one of each because it would be perfect and we could be done-- people are so weird!!!
ReplyDeleteI have B/G. My girl doesn't have much hair so I always get asked if they are both boys! lol! People just find twins quite interesting. I think it would be fun to have same gender twins because I'm that mom who likes to dress my kids alike! lol
ReplyDeleteThey are sure cuties!!!
They look so beautiful in their knitted hats! M doesn't have much pink clothing, either, and some of my favorite pieces of her wardrobe are pretty gender neutral. People seem really disconcerted when they can't tell if a baby is a boy or a girl! I'm never offended if people ask 'boy or girl?', but I do internally roll my eyes a little when they assume M is a boy just because she isn't clad in pink.
ReplyDeleteI love the colors you picked for the girls. It really matches with their big beautiful eyes!
ReplyDeletePeople think they have the right to say whatever they want. And often do so without thinking first. That turquoise is my favorite color!
ReplyDeleteSisters are sisters. Who would help you more than your own sister (forget bad exceptions)? Also, girls are warmer towards the mother more than the boys.
ReplyDeleteSara ff
You said it best…they are perfect exactly as they are. Such beautiful little things as well.
ReplyDeleteI got so tired of everyone telling me how perfect it was the we were having a boy and a girl, and then tellin me we could be done if we want. Well, we are done regardless and don't have a choice in that! I always thought it would be so much fun to have two boys or two girls. The dynamics between them would be so much different. I am very very happy with my one if each and I obviously wouldn't change that, bu I would have been ecstatic regardless of what their was. Your girls are beautiful! Turquoise is my favorite color.
ReplyDeleteOh yeah. People always ask me if we are going to "try for the boy". Because, "apparently", having one of each is the perfect family. But I looovvvveee having two girls. I felt no disappointment at all about not having a boy. If ever we were going to try for a third, it would really be cool if it were a boy...but whatever. I love that my girls will have each other and (hopefully) be close!
ReplyDeletePS. People have asked if Hayden was a boy, even when she was in her bright, neon pink Swaddle Me. Seriously!!!
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