tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post7574002311478804768..comments2024-02-25T01:22:11.384-05:00Comments on Compromised Fertility: What If I Say No?Lizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16622876789284884234noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-18227736885614238222015-05-07T21:55:11.086-04:002015-05-07T21:55:11.086-04:00whoops - "there are professionals" ;)whoops - "there are professionals" ;)Caitlin Steeveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04501252243678763176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-717766021930606842015-05-07T21:54:25.378-04:002015-05-07T21:54:25.378-04:00Your instincts have been RIGHT ON soooo many times...Your instincts have been RIGHT ON soooo many times - don't doubt yourself now. You want a different birth experience - and their are professionals (doc AND doula) out there who will support you and help you make that happen. It is wonderful you are looking into this now.Caitlin Steeveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04501252243678763176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-90254623393630140092015-05-07T10:38:38.296-04:002015-05-07T10:38:38.296-04:00Hi Liz - Josey sent me your way. I had a traumatic...Hi Liz - Josey sent me your way. I had a traumatic C-section with my first, though I was awake during it, so not quite as scary as yours. I was able to have an unmedicated VBAC with my second and it went better than I hoped it could. Part of that was I did a ton of interviewing OBs/midwives early on. My first OB encounter was similar to yours with "well you can try for a VBAC, but we really like to have the epidural in place because you'll probably need a C anyhow." Also, the doc didn't acknowledge my husband in that first appointment. I ended up finding an OB who was in a midwife practice. Other than my first and last appointment all of my prenatal care was with midwives and an on call OB delivered me but my doc was in the hospital, just in surgery at the time.<br />After talking VBAC, what is your success rate, etc... all of my conversations in the initial appointment were in that "what if" place. Because while I delivered at 38.5 weeks I could have gone to 41. <br />We talked induction possibilities. We talked risks of going beyond 41. And the greatest thing the OB I went with did was I was measuring 3 days ahead at the appointment with her, so she officially moved my due date giving me 3 more days (normally they don't move unless off more than a week).<br />We talked about family friendly C-section, where I would get skin to skin in the OR. And unless a medical emergency the baby would not leave my sight.<br />And I hired a doula who had VBAC experience and had worked with my doctor before (her VBACs were not with my doc - couldn't find that) and that was the best money I ever spent.<br />I wish you all the best. It's really hard to find a doctor and it shouldn't be. Please feel free to email me if you have more questions or want to see the birth plan I came up with.<br />kaseykakes@gmail.com<br />www.powersfullife.com<br />(sorry if you get this multiple times)Kaseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17062631732118378411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-81275563396244732112015-05-06T00:29:51.032-04:002015-05-06T00:29:51.032-04:00Repeat cesareans are no joke, I'm glad you'...Repeat cesareans are no joke, I'm glad you're looking into and open to your other options. Out of the thousands of families I've worked with at this point I can only think of two bad VBAC outcomes (for mom or baby, I'm not counting having to have another cesarean as a bad outcome obviously) but too many to remember the total bad repeat cesarean outcomes. If nothing else it is smart to do research, ask questions, and get second opinions.<br />I'll be thinking of you as you navigate these waters. I hope you find a provider who can have more respectful dialogue with you and really acknowledge the validity of your concerns.<br />Also re: language around cesarean sections, I try to use the term "cesarean birth" or "c-birth" when talking with the mamas at work and other providers. I think it's a subtle shift in language that portrays that no matter how babies enter this world it is a birth, a start to a new life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-20942956203546647332015-05-05T18:33:39.045-04:002015-05-05T18:33:39.045-04:00I think it's great that you are exploring all ...I think it's great that you are exploring all your options. I don't understand why W wasn't able to be in the room for the girls' birth? That would be sad to me too. I hope that you are able to find a provider that will make you feel very comfortable, no matter what you decide, even if you ultimately decide to stay exactly where you are at. Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-36806942279846751642015-05-05T12:07:43.396-04:002015-05-05T12:07:43.396-04:00"I'm going to feel really dumb for making..."I'm going to feel really dumb for making such a big deal out of all of this if I go into labor on my own before that 41 week mark." <-- THIS is exactly why you should switch to a different provider. Your worries are not dumb. Your concerns are valid and important. Decisions should not be made out of fear instead of evidence based care. I'm so excited for you as you look into this! <br /><br />Also, reach out to A (https://mellowinthemidwest.wordpress.com/2013/07/26/vbac-birth-plan-in-progress/) about VBAC. She had a fantastic VBAC experience with a 11#9.5oz baby girl at 41w2d. She'll have lots of great info for you. Joshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423295019681051881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-41654810426249714002015-05-05T10:02:36.295-04:002015-05-05T10:02:36.295-04:00I have very mixed opinions about VBAC. I do believ...I have very mixed opinions about VBAC. I do believe that when the time comes you will know what to do and make the best decision for you and baby. Regardless if it is VBAC or c-section. Wishing you the best of luck.Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.com