tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post1647494365732641996..comments2024-02-25T01:22:11.384-05:00Comments on Compromised Fertility: Feeling LostLizhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16622876789284884234noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-84746575274390974742013-04-12T17:08:10.655-04:002013-04-12T17:08:10.655-04:00Oh Liz, I feel for you Hun. After struggling with...Oh Liz, I feel for you Hun. After struggling with IF, it is just hard to believe it's possible for us to make it to the end. But you are 13 weeks and the babies are doing well! I don't feel I have any more advice that would be any better than the others. I'm thinking of you!Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16507432917936364757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-59921148009219796532013-04-11T19:16:38.315-04:002013-04-11T19:16:38.315-04:00Oh man....Liz....I've been where you are in a ...Oh man....Liz....I've been where you are in a lot of ways. First of all, the feelings of sadness are fairly common in pregnancy, especially during the first trimester/early second trimester when your hormones are still all over the place. I went through it with this pregnancy and really struggled from about 8 weeks until about 18 weeks. It was odd, because while I was happy to be pregnant, I was sad a lot too. I was always worried, always stressed, and it caused so much unhappiness. Unfortunately for me, this is a pattern during early pregnancy for me. As for the weight gain--I know I'm only preggo with one--but I lost 10+ pounds in the beginning from being so sick and didn't gain any of it back until about 24 weeks or so. It's really ok....the babies will get everything THEY need before you will get it. that's how the body works. Also, I know of a WONDERFUL doctor in my practice. She just began with the practice and I have seen her a few times and she is so wonderfully kind and patient. If you would like more info, text me. There's so much I could say, because I've felt most of what you are feeling now. It will get better. You will feel better. You will feel like yourself again. It takes time--and it takes time to believe in your body again....~*Amanda~*https://www.blogger.com/profile/16150139744463748092noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-10219280206550692942013-04-11T18:44:12.116-04:002013-04-11T18:44:12.116-04:00Advice from a fellow-IVFer: do not stop looking un...Advice from a fellow-IVFer: do not stop looking until you find the right OB for you. This is an incredibly tough journey already up to this point and you deserve the attention and care you need.<br />I ditched my 1st OB after having to beg him for every little thing and having to argue over RE's recommendations. Not worth the extra stress. What I did I was asking around among friends who had difficult pregnancies and found the most compassionate doctor ever. She was the best in giving me peace of mind whenever I needed.erikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07652721342410868916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-19735843785310614222013-04-11T18:42:02.441-04:002013-04-11T18:42:02.441-04:00I had some of those same problems with my twin pre...I had some of those same problems with my twin pregnancies. With my first, I didn't gain any weight until week 16-18. After that, I gained weight like crazy and ended up with a total of 52 pounds. With my second, I had headaches all the time. I also thought it was a problem and was assured that it was okay and that I should take some extra strength Tylenol. <br /><br />It is hard going from infertility to pregnancy, but you have earned it so try and enjoy! Harder said than done, but you are doing great so far!! :)Jessica Annehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01083066729646042375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-23876966002773365122013-04-11T14:14:44.818-04:002013-04-11T14:14:44.818-04:00I can tell you from experience both the headaches ...I can tell you from experience both the headaches and the weight loss/slow gain are normal. The level your hormones are at right now due to twin pregnancy and supplementation is pretty intense. I had a very uneventful twin pregnancy and had both. One of the tags on my blog is 'week by week' and it has all of my updates from about 10ish weeks through the end of my pregnancy at 38+ weeks. I found it very comforting to look other twin pregnancy blogs and see them going through the same things at similar weeks. <br /><br />We had two different OBs during our pregnancy the first was very light on conversation. It seemed like she just wanted to get my stats for the appointment ask if I had any questions and then be on her way (after i'd waited FOR.EV.ER). Once we switched OBs so we could deliver at a hospital with a nicu just in case- we saw a complete 180 in care. Our new doctor (someone who has been practicing for 25+ years)was much more forward with information and had something new to talk about at every appointment from classes to take to what to do if I were to start bleeding or having contractions. I wished I had been under his care from the start, there was an instant trust and that is SO important for IF patients, especially twin mamas. <br />Don't worry too much about the weight- it will come... I promise. Just keep eating healthy for those babes and make sure to get plenty of rest. I also found my headaches were significantly better when I drank A LOT of water everyday. waiting and wishinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12159033292946238622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-27009947953292847252013-04-11T13:20:46.029-04:002013-04-11T13:20:46.029-04:00Moving on to OB care was a shock to me too. What ...Moving on to OB care was a shock to me too. What I came to realize is that OBs see normal preggos every day and they expect everything to go well. They don't have the scars of IF and they don't offer the same reassurances that REs do. They make references to things that could be wrong in a very flippant way and they really don't expect it to cause concern. My biggest piece of advice is to do the tests you can and try with all your might not to worry about anything until they tell you there is something to worry about. Pretty much her referral to a neurologist just means she doesn't know what to tell you. And it's very common to have little or no weight gain in 1T. Just keep eating well and I promise 2T will be different =) someday-soonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347835900888933013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-75647912709075956102013-04-11T12:29:17.782-04:002013-04-11T12:29:17.782-04:00I found the transition from infertility treatment ...I found the transition from infertility treatment to pregnancy really tough, too, and also thought about PTSD. I think that explanation makes a lot of sense for us. I doubted and feared everything, pretty much until I started feeling movement from the baby (and even now I get scared some days). <br /><br />I'm sorry your Dr. did not give you the reassurance you needed at the appointment. Could you call or email with some follow-up questions about the headaches and what is normal/abnormal with headaches(I did this after a a visit that I felt was rushed and unsatisfying)? <br /><br />I hope your next appointment goes much better!jill's infertility documenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08289851786334836156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-28979786824597432052013-04-11T08:20:07.792-04:002013-04-11T08:20:07.792-04:00I'm sorry the appointment went so poorly. UGH!...I'm sorry the appointment went so poorly. UGH! Wanted you to know that you have one more person thinking of and praying for you.dspencehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03028178955338687090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-35767047208496388032013-04-11T00:25:37.260-04:002013-04-11T00:25:37.260-04:00You've been through so much, I think what you ...You've been through so much, I think what you are facing is incredibly normal. Don't feel the need to compare yourself to anyone, but give yourself permission to handle this pregnancy however you need to. I just found out I'm pregnant with twins too, so I'll be following along with you! Sara-Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02106264089310972938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-55458920327596429052013-04-10T22:31:56.453-04:002013-04-10T22:31:56.453-04:00First, I am sooo glad to hear the babies are thriv...First, I am sooo glad to hear the babies are thriving! And second, I know it is so hard not to worry and to want the best doc for this part of the journey! And I dont blame you. You have been through a lot. Like Josey said, if you feel you are not getting what you need from her, find another OB. We switched, for sort of different reasons, and thank God we did as Sam was born so early and needed a great NICU. I feel like I had some sort of intuition about it. And if you feel that way too about your doc, then follow it! It does seem funny that she said only 15-20 lbs for carrying twins!! Hang in there girl. You are doing great and you are so blessed. This is real and this is happening for you! xo Although, sometimes we all just need a good cry anyways to get things out! As exciting as a pregnancy can be, it def can get stressful at times!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10364801556842061320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-46152965065042295152013-04-10T21:46:17.487-04:002013-04-10T21:46:17.487-04:00Oh, hon, I'm sorry you're feeling this way...Oh, hon, I'm sorry you're feeling this way. It is normal. Pregnancy after IF and loss if very hard. I agree with the others- don't worry about the weight gain. I didn't gain much weight until my 3rd trimester. Those babies will take what they need from you and be fine. Also, talk to your OB. If she isn't responsive, find another one. You need someone you are comfortable with and who will take great care of you. Big hugs!Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16628425225127969675noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-87987099674103661702013-04-10T21:13:38.907-04:002013-04-10T21:13:38.907-04:00I am sorry you are feeling this way. :-(
I secon...I am sorry you are feeling this way. :-(<br /><br />I second the recommendation for Barbara Luke's book. Good source of information. Just don't stress out if you can't quite eat the way she recommends or gain weight at the same rate.<br /><br />I don't know what your pre-pregnancy weight was, but unless you were underweight, I would not worry too much about the fact that you haven't gained much in the first trimester. I lost about 10 lbs during my first trimester with my twin pregnancy, and my OB was not at all concerned, and our babies grew and developed just fine.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-60685853287038205282013-04-10T21:12:40.410-04:002013-04-10T21:12:40.410-04:00Wow I can totally understand why you were so stres...Wow I can totally understand why you were so stressed out!! I've never heard of a Dr. recommending 15-20 lbs weight gain for a singleton, let alone twins! Maybe this is the Canadian in me, but maybe she meant kg??<br /><br />I'm glad to hear the babies are doing great. I had a friend who didn't gain enough weight with her twin pregnancy and her boys came out perfectly healthy! It's only natural you worry about the babies, and that is never ever going to stop! Keep up the good work MamaGypsy Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13026496787029080243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-57980476678191944462013-04-10T21:09:30.267-04:002013-04-10T21:09:30.267-04:00What you are feeling is NORMAL!!! If you don't...What you are feeling is NORMAL!!! If you don't like the new ob find a new one. I know it's scary but your 13 so you have time to find one you love. You are strong enough and your body is rocking this! Hang in there!ousoonerchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885981540075640756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-2909783222651134852013-04-10T21:05:46.594-04:002013-04-10T21:05:46.594-04:00I felt the same way about this pregnancy. It'...I felt the same way about this pregnancy. It's hard to embrace and that is totally normal. I didn't really start embracing it until about 21 weeks. I told some friends around around 14, and coworkers and othes after 20 weeks. Everyone is different. You will know when the time is right. <br /><br />I had horrible headaches from 12 weeks til about 18 weeks. I used Tylenol when they got too bad, and it helped so much. Hope this helps!!!Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04080529677449655463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-27458874101743152012013-04-10T21:02:49.130-04:002013-04-10T21:02:49.130-04:00I cant comment on a lot of the twin stuff, b/c obv...I cant comment on a lot of the twin stuff, b/c obviously I don't know, but my doc was NOT concerned a bit about my weight gain (or lack thereof) in the first trimester. Even though you have twins in there, they weigh very little right now, and it is NOT a huge deal that you haven't gained weight yet. Try not to worry about that. <br /><br />Honestly, if you see that doc again, TELL HER what you just wrote here. Express to her what you are expecting from her. Docs are like any of us - they have off days, and they aren't mind readers - as much as we want them to be. I'm saying that as someone who works in a medical clinic. <br /><br />If you still don't feel supported - find a new OB. Hands down. It's SO important to have a provider that supports you. <br /><br />GOod luck honey. So glad the babies are doing great!!! Joshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423295019681051881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7997674901661163175.post-54375067362717738782013-04-10T20:35:46.197-04:002013-04-10T20:35:46.197-04:00The transition from infertility to being pregnant ...The transition from infertility to being pregnant is so scary. I remember having so many of the same feelings when I was discharged from my RE. I just felt like no one could understand our situation and all we had gone through to get to that point. All your feeling is totally normal and valid. I'm sending you so many thoughts as you work your way through all of these feelings. <br /><br />I'm really sorry that your OB wasn't that supportive during your last appointment. That can make this whole transition more difficult. <br /><br />I'm 24 weeks now with twins and have found a lot of great information from the book Dr. Barbara Luke wrote on multiple pregnancies. It's called "When You're Expecting Twins, Triplets, or Quads." If you're looking for some more information I really suggest reading the book. It has been very helpful to me through this pregnancy. <br /><br />Sending you lots of thoughts!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01994163573776780090noreply@blogger.com